Training managing yourself
Training: Managing Yourself
Self-management based on your personal instructions
You are used to functioning properly, with your psyche working as you want it to. This refers to the “normal” daily activities like active participation, concentration, shopping, and working. But it also extends to more important things, like your daily functioning in the roles of partner, father/mother, friend, son/daughter, colleague.
When people don’t function in the usual way, they react in the same way as they would with a broken vacuum cleaner: they hit it, shake it, change the dust container, in the hope that “it will go again”. Or they blame someone else who has used it for unsuitable work. The best way to deal with the situation is to look at the instruction manual to see what the cause and possible solution of the defect may be.
People often treat themselves in the same way when they’re not functioning in the way they’re used to. They’re not able to relax, to enjoy themselves or to work with concentration. A quick solution is sought in the form of “kicking yourself”, “an evening out”, “going to bed early”. Sometimes this has permanent success, but it is usually only temporary.
It can be helpful to consult your own instructions and, in that way, to look at the cause and the possible solution of the problem. It costs more time, but it is a step in the direction of lasting, effective functioning.
In this training you are given tips for self-management based on your personal instruction manual. The point under consideration is the style in which you direct your own thoughts, feelings and actions. This is called self-management. The following types of people are described:
- serious thinker
- impulsive action-taker
- attractive (pseudo)strong person
- open sensitive person
Aim of the training
It’s often changes in your life which test your ‘instruction manual’, the way in which you are used to position yourself in life. These may be sudden changes, such as a new job, moving, loss of a loved one or the birth of a child. Or they may be gradual changes, such as increasing pressure of work, a lot of set-backs and worries, disappointment in your fellowmen.
These changes, both positive and negative, are a test for your instructions. When you realize that these instructions are not really geared to your present life, it can be an idea to take a good look at them. It gives you a grip on the situation if you have tips to help you recognize and influence your inner self and your distinguishing features. With the intention of regaining a strong and tenable position in your life, of finding a healthy balance between the demands being made on you and your personal potential. An important principle is to learn to rely on your own strength and to make your own choices.
The result
You feel strengthened in your self-confidence and power to make decisions and have enough skills to be able to react adequately to all the demands made on you every day, both at home and at work. The fact that your life is in your own hands gives you a feeling of energy and vitality. That is gain, not only for yourself but for the people around you.
Day 1 – What is my ‘instruction manual’?
On the first day of the course we concentrate on getting to know and learning how to direct your individual instructions. By this we mean your own way of influencing what you think, feel and do. On the first day, the emphasis is on strengthening your self-knowledge.
Themes:
• Learning to influence your own thoughts, feelings and actions
• Learning how to look at your own behavioural patterns
• Influencing the less effective patterns in your intercourse with yourself, with practical tips
• Using your personal strength in thoughts, feelings and actions
• In which role and work situation am I most effective?
Day 2 – How do I experience my life?
On the second day of the course the emphasis is on how you experience your own life and how you behave towards other people. Where the first day was dedicated to self-knowledge, now this self-knowledge is used to practise effective behaviour towards others.
The tips are attuned to your own behaviour pattern, as listed below;
- serious thinker
- impulsive action-taker
- attractive (pseudo)strong person
- open sensitive one
Themes:
• Standing up for yourself in your relationships with others
• Speaking clearly about your own needs and limits
• Command of energy and application
• Personal strength in relation to others
• Personal plan of action for the home situation and the work situation.
Follow-up Day 3 - What do I choose?
This third day gives you, in the first place, the opportunity to discuss the results of the assignments and tips, and to refresh your knowledge. After that, choices have to be made. The question is: what can I effectively learn and apply from my ‘instruction manual’ and what must I learn to live with.
Themes:
• Self-acceptance; life within the limits of your potential
• Choices: what inspires you? What do you find important in life?
• Management of growing pains (better the old familiar than the new unknown)
• Explanation of your ‘instructions’ to others
• Your personal “first-aid box”: the do’s and don’ts for a good mental condition.
Method
The themes of the course all consist of an informative, introductory part, followed by exercises and role play. The emphasis lies on gaining experience with new effective behaviour, both in relationship with yourself and with others. You practise at home and at work on the basis of assignments.
Participants are given the opportunity to learn gradually how to apply the tips in practice. That is why there is a fortnight between the first two sessions and the last session is planned two months later.
The group consists of a maximum of twelve participants and two trainers/psychologists. This allows space for individual learning problems. The group is split up regularly in order to give more opportunity for practice.
Participants are given a file with all information and the book “Managing Yourself, self-management adapted to your own instruction manual” by Heilwine Bakker.
Costs and payment
The client receives an invoice for the training, to be paid within two weeks. If a written cancellation is received one month before the start of the course, the payment is returned in full. The costs cover:
• three days of training, including location and refreshments
• the file with all information
* the book “Managing Yourself, self-management adapted to your own instruction manual” by Heilwine Bakker.
For businesses, the training can be given in company. An adapted invoice is then sent.
Training: Managing Yourself
Self-management based on your personal instructions
You are used to functioning properly, with your psyche working as you want it to. This refers to the “normal” daily activities like active participation, concentration, shopping, and working. But it also extends to more important things, like your daily functioning in the roles of partner, father/mother, friend, son/daughter, colleague.
When people don’t function in the usual way, they react in the same way as they would with a broken vacuum cleaner: they hit it, shake it, change the dust container, in the hope that “it will go again”. Or they blame someone else who has used it for unsuitable work. The best way to deal with the situation is to look at the instruction manual to see what the cause and possible solution of the defect may be.
People often treat themselves in the same way when they’re not functioning in the way they’re used to. They’re not able to relax, to enjoy themselves or to work with concentration. A quick solution is sought in the form of “kicking yourself”, “an evening out”, “going to bed early”. Sometimes this has permanent success, but it is usually only temporary.
It can be helpful to consult your own instructions and, in that way, to look at the cause and the possible solution of the problem. It costs more time, but it is a step in the direction of lasting, effective functioning.
In this training you are given tips for self-management based on your personal instruction manual. The point under consideration is the style in which you direct your own thoughts, feelings and actions. This is called self-management. The following types of people are described:
- serious thinker
- impulsive action-taker
- attractive (pseudo)strong person
- open sensitive person
Aim of the training
It’s often changes in your life which test your ‘instruction manual’, the way in which you are used to position yourself in life. These may be sudden changes, such as a new job, moving, loss of a loved one or the birth of a child. Or they may be gradual changes, such as increasing pressure of work, a lot of set-backs and worries, disappointment in your fellowmen.
These changes, both positive and negative, are a test for your instructions. When you realize that these instructions are not really geared to your present life, it can be an idea to take a good look at them. It gives you a grip on the situation if you have tips to help you recognize and influence your inner self and your distinguishing features. With the intention of regaining a strong and tenable position in your life, of finding a healthy balance between the demands being made on you and your personal potential. An important principle is to learn to rely on your own strength and to make your own choices.
The result
You feel strengthened in your self-confidence and power to make decisions and have enough skills to be able to react adequately to all the demands made on you every day, both at home and at work. The fact that your life is in your own hands gives you a feeling of energy and vitality. That is gain, not only for yourself but for the people around you.
Day 1 – What is my ‘instruction manual’?
On the first day of the course we concentrate on getting to know and learning how to direct your individual instructions. By this we mean your own way of influencing what you think, feel and do. On the first day, the emphasis is on strengthening your self-knowledge.
Themes:
• Learning to influence your own thoughts, feelings and actions
• Learning how to look at your own behavioural patterns
• Influencing the less effective patterns in your intercourse with yourself, with practical tips
• Using your personal strength in thoughts, feelings and actions
• In which role and work situation am I most effective?
Day 2 – How do I experience my life?
On the second day of the course the emphasis is on how you experience your own life and how you behave towards other people. Where the first day was dedicated to self-knowledge, now this self-knowledge is used to practise effective behaviour towards others.
The tips are attuned to your own behaviour pattern, as listed below;
- serious thinker
- impulsive action-taker
- attractive (pseudo)strong person
- open sensitive one
Themes:
• Standing up for yourself in your relationships with others
• Speaking clearly about your own needs and limits
• Command of energy and application
• Personal strength in relation to others
• Personal plan of action for the home situation and the work situation.
Follow-up Day 3 - What do I choose?
This third day gives you, in the first place, the opportunity to discuss the results of the assignments and tips, and to refresh your knowledge. After that, choices have to be made. The question is: what can I effectively learn and apply from my ‘instruction manual’ and what must I learn to live with.
Themes:
• Self-acceptance; life within the limits of your potential
• Choices: what inspires you? What do you find important in life?
• Management of growing pains (better the old familiar than the new unknown)
• Explanation of your ‘instructions’ to others
• Your personal “first-aid box”: the do’s and don’ts for a good mental condition.
Method
The themes of the course all consist of an informative, introductory part, followed by exercises and role play. The emphasis lies on gaining experience with new effective behaviour, both in relationship with yourself and with others. You practise at home and at work on the basis of assignments.
Participants are given the opportunity to learn gradually how to apply the tips in practice. That is why there is a fortnight between the first two sessions and the last session is planned two months later.
The group consists of a maximum of twelve participants and two trainers/psychologists. This allows space for individual learning problems. The group is split up regularly in order to give more opportunity for practice.
Participants are given a file with all information and the book “Managing Yourself, self-management adapted to your own instruction manual” by Heilwine Bakker.
Costs and payment
The client receives an invoice for the training, to be paid within two weeks. If a written cancellation is received one month before the start of the course, the payment is returned in full. The costs cover:
• three days of training, including location and refreshments
• the file with all information
* the book “Managing Yourself, self-management adapted to your own instruction manual” by Heilwine Bakker.
For businesses, the training can be given in company. An adapted invoice is then sent.
